I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years and a coach for 5 years, and I’ve probably had more fun and effected more change in the last 5 years than I did in the first 20. I think that’s less a reflection on therapy and more a reflection on this truism: When it’s time, it’s time.
My background and history help me do the work I do, so here are some highlights:
I’m a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Florida, a former professor of Psychology at Rhodes College in Memphis, a former Montessori teacher and teacher trainer, and a certified Martha Beck Master Coach. I’ve been a cocktail waitress, a fast food cashier, a psychologist at a private southern girls’ school, and a wedding consultant. I’ve published my writing, supervised all sorts of school counselors, and made hundreds of speeches to hundreds of thousands of people. I’ve moved our 4 grown kids in and out of dorms, apartments, and houses more times than I can count. I’ve been divorced. I’ve despaired as a parent. I had cancer and recovered. I met my beloved husband at a Jungian Dream Seminar. I love my children, my family, and my life. And my dogs. And my horses.
My husband says that I’m the most optimistic person he’s ever known. I do expect that everything will work out beautifully, and, if it’s not working out yet, then the universe just has a different timing than I do. (I’m kind of sure that this is why I find parking spaces when he can’t.) I think that you get what you expect to find, eventually – that timing issue again…
I believe in synchronicity, in the power of both negative and positive thought, and in the sacred act of listening.
I believe that we will move through sadness, grief, and despair because these feelings are the shadow side of love, and love is our truest purpose on earth. Heartache is just part and parcel of being human. But suffering — the long, extended, burdensome, intractable kind? Suffering like this means that you’re locked into at least one belief that IS NOT TRUE. I’ll help you find that belief, unlock it, and let it go.